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I've found that the most common Love Busters in marriage fall into five categories:

• Selfish Demands

• Disrespectful Judgments

• Angry Outbursts

• Annoying Habits

• Independent Behavior

• Dishonesty

The first three of these Love Busters are instinctive, yet thoughtless, ways to try to get what you want from each other. When a request doesn't work, a spouse will often revert to a demand ("I don't care how you feel -- do it or else!"). If that doesn't get the job done, a spouse will try disrespectful judgments ("If you had any sense, and were not so lazy and selfish, you would do it"). And then, when all of that fails, an angry outburst often represents the last ditch effort ("I'll see to it that you regret not having done it").

Of course, demands, disrespect and anger don't really get the job done. You generally don't do things for your spouse because of these Love Busters, you do them out of care and consideration. If your spouse is demanding, disrespectful and angry, you tend to be less caring and considerate, leading you to do less for your spouse. Instead of giving your spouse what he or she needs, demands, disrespect and anger cause you to resist. I want you to have what you need in your marriage, but demands, disrespect and anger will not get it for you. They will prevent you from having what you want if you revert to these destructive instincts.

But when you indulge in these three Love Busters, you do more than fail to get what you need -- you also destroy the love your spouse has for you. All of these instincts, and the habits they help create, cause your spouse to be unhappy, and that causes Love Bank withdrawals.

The fourth Love Buster, Annoying Habits, is behavior that is repeated without much thought that bothers your spouse. Marriage is a partnership of incredibly close quarters, where just about anything you or your spouse does is almost sure to affect the other. If you want to stay in love with each other, your habits, even the innocent ones, should make Love Bank deposits, not withdrawals.

The fifth Love Buster is Independent Behavior, the conduct of one spouse that ignores the feelings and interests of the other spouse. If your decisions are made as if your spouse doesn't even exist, you will find yourself running roughshod over your spouse's feelings and your Love Bank account. Since it's usually scheduled and requires some thought to execute, the simplest way to overcome it is to take it off your schedule. And if you follow the Policy of Joint Agreement, Independent Behavior will never find itself on your schedule in the first place.

Finally, the sixth Love Buster, Dishonesty, causes massive Love Bank withdrawals whenever it's discovered. And spouses usually discover each other's dishonesty because of their emotional closeness to each other. If you or your spouse have a tendency to lie or distort the truth, chase that bad habit out of your marriage before it ruins everything.

On September 28, 2000, the FDA approved the drug mifepristone, also known as RU-486, as an approved method of early abortion. The decision has been accompanied by huge amounts of controversy between pro-choice and pro-life advocates. But many people don't know what the abortion pill really is, what is does, and how it is really used.

How does mifepristone work?

The hormone progesterone is necessary to maintain a healthy pregnancy by preparing the lining of the uterus for a fertilized egg. Mifepristone works by blocking progesterone, and inducing a miscarriage, or spontaneous abortion. After 48 hours, the drug misoprostol is administered, which induces labor. Studies show that the drug is effective in 92-96% of cases. Mifepristone must be taken in the first seven weeks of pregnancy.

The abortion pill is often confused with emergency contraception, or the morning-after pill. EC is used to prevent a pregnancy after unprotected intercourse, and is not an abortion. In contrast, mifepristone does induce an abortion, and is not meant to be a form of birth control.

Is the drug safe?

The drug is a very safe alternative to a surgical abortion. It has been used safely by over 600,000 women in Europe. There have been no reported deaths from the use of Mifepristone. However, some women should not take Mifepristone. A woman with a tubal pregnancy, an IUD in place, adrenal gland problems, using steroid medications, bleeding problems, using anticoagulants, or with allergies to the drug should consider other forms of abortion.

Are there side effects?

Mifepristone can cause various undesirable side effects, including pain, bleeding, nausea, cramping, vomiting, diarrhea, fever, and chills. In 5% of women, surgery is required to complete the abortion, control bleeding, or to perform an abortion if the drug is not effective.

Is Mifepristone is form of birth control?

Absolutely not, Midepristone is not a form of birth control. It is an option for those who wish to terminate their pregnancy through abortion. One should also take into consideration that: multiple abortions can cause numerous problems in a woman's body, including affecting her ability to reproduce in the future.

Mifepristone can be a valuable option if a pregnancy occurs and if an apportion is desired, but make sure you discuss all your options with a physician and with your partner. Remember apportion is not the only option of an unwanted pregnancy; adoption is also another option. But always remember, condoms (or other forms of contraceptives) are almost 99.9% effective if used correctly and help prevent the spread of STD's and pregnancy.

The truth is though that love means different things for different people. I think love is knowing that no matter what you'd do anything for the other person guy or girl because they make you so happy and so wonderful that it's the greatest feeling you've ever had. It is so important to you that you can't think about anything else, and it becomes a natural thing to love that person. I think that is what love is, but the description of love is different for all of us. Some of us experience true, great love many times, and for others only once.

No matter what though we must keep in mind that love is a very powerful, important, usually wonderful thing. People always have and always will have different opinions on what love is and how it should be shown, and what should be acceptable and what not acceptable. You just have to do what feels right to you and follow your heart when it comes to love, no one can tell you, you are not in love or you are in love, you have to know what is right for you.

I believe that no matter how you express love or what you understand about love that when you find it you know its love, and that its right. I believe that if you find true love it is important to cherish it, embrace it and remember it. Sometimes you must let go love for whatever reason and it may be the hardest thing to do, but just remember the good times and what you learned from that person and they will always be in your heart. Love is a great thing whether we understand it, know how it feels, or not.

By: Nicole